Core tools

Timeout

Section from the interactive two-leg model reference: attachment and assertiveness legs, coping modes under stress, and tools that support balance.

Psychoeducation only. Concepts here support self-understanding and conversations with a qualified professional; they are not a clinical diagnosis or mode inventory score.

All sections Coping card Mode map

Timeout agreement builder

When mode cycles escalate, a structured timeout prevents damage. Build your agreement: signal word, duration, individual regulation strategies, and return protocol.

TIMEOUT AGREEMENT

Build Your Break Protocol

A structured agreement for when mode cycles escalate. Prevents further damage and allows regulation.

Start from a template:

1. Signal Word/Phrase

A neutral word either can say to call timeout. Avoid accusatory language.

2. Timeout Duration

Minimum 15 minutes for physiological regulation. Maximum 60 minutes.

3. Regulation Strategies

What each partner will do during the timeout to self-regulate.

Jordan

Alex

4. Return Protocol

How you come back together after the timeout.

Timeout Agreement Builder — couples schema therapy tool. Interrupt mode cycles before damage. Return regulated. NOT scored from YSQ-R

Official YSQ-3 long/short forms and other schema inventories are copyrighted by the Schema Therapy Institute and sold through their order center. Theory and inventory overview: Schema Therapy Institute. This portal uses a Rasch YSQ-R style implementation for self-reflection—not those licensed forms.