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Couples integration

Post-mortem

Section from the interactive two-leg model reference: attachment and assertiveness legs, coping modes under stress, and tools that support balance.

Psychoeducation only. Concepts here support self-understanding and conversations with a qualified professional; they are not a clinical diagnosis or mode inventory score.
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Conflict post-mortem

After you have both calmed down, walk through facts, feelings, schemas, repair, and prevention—without re-litigating who won the argument.

CONFLICT REPAIR

Conflict post-mortem

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Review a conflict after you have both calmed down

Nine structured steps help you repair, learn patterns, and plan for next time. Only continue when both partners are willing.

When to use this

  • Wait until both partners are calm—often hours after the conflict.
  • Do not force the process; either person can postpone.
  • The goal is understanding and repair, not deciding who was right.
For reflection and practice—not a substitute for couples therapy when conflict is severe or unsafe. Not scored from YSQ-R

Official YSQ-3 long/short forms and other schema inventories are copyrighted by the Schema Therapy Institute and sold through their order center. Theory and inventory overview: Schema Therapy Institute. This portal uses a Rasch YSQ-R style implementation for self-reflection—not those licensed forms.